Manual Of Service
Mistress Diabolical
Dearest one,
I would like to thank you so much for your interest in serving Me.
Right now I am seeking a service oriented submissive/slave for a
part-time position in my household. This is not a live-in position, I
envision it to be mostly weekends, possibly an evening or two here
and there. My ideal candidate is a well-rounded individual who is
emotionally stable, physically fit and foremost committed to service:
one that possesses a mastery of leather protocol and service
techniques would be highly desirable. I would hope that if our
personalities mesh well, this person would become My play partner,
lover, companion and friend. Ultimately I am seeking a lifelong, 24/7
D/s relationship, I understand that acorns don’t make oak trees
overnight, but that is My goal.
I have arranged this document into three sections. The first two
sections are for you to fill out and return to me, I want to get to know
you, and I want to want to know more about you! Please be as
creative as you like, one word answers are boring. Remember there
are pertinent negatives, what you don’t say may be as important to
me as what you do. The remaining section is for your information. I
have very specific things that I prefer and I’ve outlined many of them
in this section. While this certainly isn’t an end-all for your service to
Me, it’s an excellent place for you to start learning more about Me
and what I desire in a submissive/slave. I have spent considerable
time writing this manual so that you will have every possible chance
to succeed. Please read the manual in its entirety and be thorough
and honest when filling out the questionnaire.
I consider very few things to be “deal breakers”; however, I am a
huge advocate of chastity. Being unwilling or unable to wear a
chastity device 24/7 would preclude you from any relationship with
Me. Please understand that I am not directing you to go out and buy
a $600 chastity device today and show up wearing it. If our
relationship progresses, as I hope it will, I at some point will expect
you to wear a device. This will be a topic of great discussion and will
not be entered into lightly, but you will end up wearing a device.
If you have any questions about anything in the manual or would like
clarification please contact Me. I look forward to this journey with you.
Ms Di
Questionnaire
There are two types of questions: questions that relate directly to
your experience in BDSM, and questions about you as a person. I
am looking for someone with whom I can have a relationship, and
personality is what will determine whether we can be comfortable as
friends. There are no right or wrong answers, there are also no yes
or no or multiple choice questions, either. For the most part, these
are essay questions, with a few straight facts thrown in. BE HONEST.
The one thing that is absolutely essential to Me in any relationship is
honesty. That does not just mean not lying, it means being open as
well.
Describe your "discovery" of BDSM and your own sense of belonging
in that community.
Do you have any particular fetishes?
Are you focused primarily on sex or service or both? HONESTY,
please.
Describe your "fantasy" domme. Describe the domme you think you
might realistically have a life with.
Rate yourself from 1 to 10 on the following characteristics:
Top _____ Dominant ______
Bottom _____ Submissive _______
Slave _______
PERSONALITY
List your five favorite movies. They don't have to be in order of
preference.
What was the last book you read? When did you read it?
What is your favorite book and what did you like about it?
When you are on your own, what do you most enjoy doing?
What have you always thought you'd love to do, but have never
done?
What do you like/dislike about your occupation and your current
job? I am not asking you what you do or who you work for, that's
none of my business at this stage.
What are your three favorite TV shows?
Do you watch sports and if so what do you watch? Live or on TV?
What is your favorite radio station and what is the format of that
station?
What do you have to offer in a relationship? Be creative, I've got a
sense of humor.
What really ticks you off?
Do you have any pets? I have a large dog and a cat. Do you have
any pet allergies?
What is most important to you in a woman/partner?
What is your idea of a perfect Sunday afternoon? When did you last
spend the afternoon as described?
What do you feel are the most important factors in making a
relationship work?
What are the biggest mistakes you have made? What do you think
are the most common mistakes anyone makes?
Tell me anything else you feel will help me get a feel for you as a
person.
BDSM Checklist
Rating : 0 = NO, hard limit 1 = soft limit, disliked intensely 2 = gave
no pleasure 3 = was just ok 4 = liked it 5 = extremely enjoyed
Activity Ever Done? Rate
Yes No
Abrasion (scraping, sanding)
Age play (not pedophilia)
Anal play
Anal plugs - Small
Anal plugs - Medium
Anal plugs - Large
Anal plugs under clothes
Anal sex
Animal roleplay
Arm and leg sleeves
Asphyxiation
Auctioned for Charity
Ball stretching
Bathroom permission control
Beating hard
Beating soft
Bestiality (sex with animals)
Biting (being bitten)
Blindfolds
Bondage - light
Bondage - heavy
Bondage - all day/multi day
Boot worship
Branding
Breast bondage
Breast fucking
Breast whipping
Breath Control (choking)
Breath Control (mild)
Cages/Cells/Closets
Caning - English
Caning - sensation
Catheterization
Chains (bound with)
Chamber-pot use
Chastity device/belts
Chauffeuring (driving)
Chores (housework)
Chosen clothing for
Chosen food for
Clamps - labia/clit area
Clothespins
Cock worship
Collars - worn in private
Collars - worn in public
Contract slave
Cross dressing
Cuffs - leather
Cuffs - metal
Cunnilingus (receiving oral)
Cutting - Blood play
Daily diary
Diapers
Dilation
Dildos - vaginal
Dildos - anal
Double penetration
Ear plugs
Edge play (risk taking)
Electricity - Internal
Electricity - TENS unit
Electricity - Violet Wand
Enemas - for cleansing
Enemas - retention/training
Exercise - forced/required
Erotic dancing
Examinations
Exhibitionism (before friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy gang rape
Fantasy rape play
Fellatio (giving head to a Man)
Finger Claws
Fire play
Fisting - anal
Fisting - vaginal
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced dressing
Forced feminization
Forced homosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity
Forced servitude
Gags - bit
Gags - cloth
Gags - inflatable
Gags - phallic
Gags - rubber ball
Gags - tape
Genital sex
Golden showers (urinate on)
Gor Slave Training (positions)
Group play - Orgy
Hair pulling
Hairbrush Spankings
Harems (serving with other subs)
Harnessing - leather
Harnessing - rope
High heel wearing
High heel worship
Homage with tongue (licking)
Hoods (full head)
Hot waxing - hair removal
Human puppy-dog play
Humiliation in private
Humiliation in public
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Infantilism (baby play)
Interrogations
Kidnapping
Kneeling
Knife play (no blood)
Leather restraints
Leather (wearing)
Lecturing for misbehaviors
Lingerie (wearing)
Manacles & Irons
Massage - giving
Massage - receiving
Masturbation
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mummification - elastic wrap
Mummification - saran wrap
Nipple clamps
Nipple Piercing
Nipple Play
Orgasm control
Orgasm denial
Outdoor scenes
Pain - mild
Pain - severe
Pedicures (giving)
Personality modification
Phone sex
Piercing (perm)
Piercing (temp)
Pony play
Prison scenes
Prostitution, real or fantasy
Punishment scene
Pussy whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Rimming
Rituals
Roleplaying
Rope bondage
Rubber/late clothing
Scarification
Scratching - receiving
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving as a maid or ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as art
Serving other Doms
Sense deprivation
Shaving (depilation)
Sleep deprivation
Slutty clothing
Spandex clothing
Spanking - hand
Spanking - leather slappers
Spanking - wooden paddles
Spanking - (OTK)
Speculums
Spreader Bars
Stocks (head & hands)
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on penetration
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suction Cups
Suspension
Switching roles (Top/bottom)
Tattooing (inking)
Teasing
Thumb cuffs (metal)
Tickling
Total Power Exchange (TPE)
Triple penetration
Uniform (wearing)
Vampire Gloves
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator - anal
Vibrator - egg/internal
Vibrator - genital
Videotaped Scenes - watching
Videotape Recording of you
Voyeurism
Water Torture/Sports
Wartenburg Pinwheel
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Weight control
Whipping - cat of 9
Whipping - flogger
Whipping - single tail
Whipping - general
Wrestling
List Allergies:
List any medical conditions:
Any specific activity you enjoy that was not listed?
Understanding My mind-set: I’m going to go over a few things
that are core to what I believe as a Mistress, how I behave and what
I expect of you. Then I’ll probably yammer on a bit. Please feel free
to ask as many questions as you would like. I feel it’s important to
our relationship for us to have a clear understanding of each other.
I will ask you at some point if you believe you are a submissive or a
slave and why. Don’t feel pressured to answer this question if you
really aren’t sure. I am not interested in the label you give yourself
but rather the actions you take. If you ask 100 people what they
think the difference between the two is you probably will come away
with 100 different answers. I like the K.I.S.S. concept for this one
(Keep It Simple Stupid), so My simple quantifier is: A submissive
chooses constantly to submit once, a slave chooses once to submit
constantly.
My slave will exist without privacy or defenses. What you are,
whatever you do, whatever you think and feel will be open for My
inspection at all times. You must always carry yourself with dignity;
be you naked and at My feet or out in the world. Your appearance
and behavior will always reflect positively on Me.
I believe that anything you are allowed to do for personal gratification
is My gift to you; not your right. This may be allowing you to choose
your own meal or the clothes you wear that day or possibly to enjoy
some sexual gratification without me. These things are gifts that I
allow you, I would hope that you will appreciate them as such. Once
collared, things that you would normally do for personal gratification
or satisfaction are no longer your right.
We each are individuals beyond our D/s bond, and we each have
obligations as parents, children etc. Your first obligation will always
be to your biological family. After your biological family your
obligations are to Me, then to your leather friends and leather
community.
I will be responsible for your mental, social, emotional, physical and
spiritual well-being. Please communicate clearly what your needs
are. I have no interest in any sort of financial control; you’re a big
boy, and if you haven’t figured out how to care for your financial well-
being, then I probably don’t want to deal with you.
Men and women think differently. It’s just a fact of life. I believe
there are three keys to a great relationship: communication,
communication and communication. Please say what you mean and
PLEASE mean what you say. I don’t want to play games with you, I
don’t want to make you miserable, I want to understand what you are
tying to tell me (yes, even when I don’t like it). An appropriate way to
do this would be to say “Mistress, may I have permission to speak
freely”? Constructive explanations and polite criticisms are generally
welcomed. Silly questions and smart-ass remarks as well as caustic
tones of voice are not. Arguing with Me is pointless and just makes
Me mad.
The answer is never NO, it might be, “I prefer not to” or “I would
rather not”.
I like things the way I like them, not the way you THINK I should like
them. If I don’t like the way you do something I will tell you and you
will change to suit Me. This is about consistency. You will be
consistent about the way you serve Me and that will focus your
attention to your service to Me and will improve your mind-set.
Despite the fact that I have tits, I will not change the answers on you
without your knowledge. Having this structure will provide security to
you. As long as you follow the rules your assured to be doing thing
correctly, we will both be quite pleased!
When I play, I have the propensity to be extreme. I have years of
experience in a variety of play techniques, and when I play, My
utmost concern is for your safety, both physical and emotional. I
consider your use of a safe word to be a failure on My part. I do My
very best to pay close attention to your expression, body language
etc, so if you “safe out”, I feel that I have failed in my job, as I should
have noticed the signs you were in trouble. As a rule, I will quit
before you do. As we get to know each other better, I will push you
further and further. You will have a safeword and we will discuss it
before play.
Protocol: There are three levels of protocol I employ. Those
versed in leather protocol will see that they are a very close
adaptation of what is common leather practice.
Social Protocol: This is the lowest of all levels and allows the
submissive/slave the most freedom. The submissive/slave shall refer
to Me as Mistress or Ma’am but has no other speech restrictions.
You are permitted to use the furniture and to walk next to me. You
are not required to maintain eye contact and may move freely
about. Most commonly used in vanilla situations.
Low Protocol: All walking, standing, sitting and speaking directives
are evoked. You must request permission to leave My presence.
This is the standard protocol and will be used unless I have directed
you to use a different protocol.
High Protocol- All formal protocols will be used. Pay special
attention to language and attending positions. The submissive/slave
is NOT free to engage in any conversation or activity, must remain
highly alert to My needs and will shadow My every move.
General Protocol Directives
Unless otherwise directed, always assume you are in LOW protocol.
A submissive/slave is not permitted to use any furniture unless
directed to do so.
I am to be addressed as Mistress or Ma’am every time you speak to
Me
You will never leave My presence (line of sight) without permission.
All doors (car, entrance, etc) will be opened for me.
Locate my jacket, handbag and anything else we may need well
before we go out; no rushing at the last moment.
You will not be seated before me. When seated, sit up straight with
your hands in your lap and don’t fiddle around.
Speak clearly and in a pleasant tone. Do not sound bossy or
overbearing. Do not chatter or use excessive hand movements
when speaking.
You shall walk in a graceful manner so as not to attract attention to
yourself. Your place when walking with me is on My right shoulder
and one step behind me.
When standing you shall not slouch. In Low Protocol, place your
hands at your sides, remain attentive and do not mill around. You
may speak quietly to those that approach you but must be aware of
Me in the event that I need you. In High Protocol you will place
yourself in My direct line of sight and assume the parade rest
position, keeping ever watchful. When in high protocol you are not
permitted to speak to anyone. This position will be referred to as the
“attending” position.
If seated you must rise when I enter or leave the room.
When being introduced to another Mistress you will bow, express
your gratitude to meet her and respectfully request how She prefers
to be addressed. Female Dominants must always be addressed as
Ma’am at the very minimum. When introduced to a male dom you will
use a casual greeting. There is no need to address a male
dominant as “Sir”.
Punishment- There are two types of punishable offensives,
negligent disobedience and willful disobedience. An example of
negligent disobedience might be something like forgetting to serve
My coffee properly or not addressing Me properly. An example of
willful disobedience might be something like not calling when you
were directed to or masturbating without permission. I deal with
punishment on a case by case basis, and I don’t ever expect to have
to punish you. When punishment is necessary, you will be told
exactly why you are being punished and you will be asked why the
failure occurred. Arguing with Me over a punishment is pointless,
and the time you waste trying to get out of something only gives me
more time to plot a more distasteful punishment. When the
punishment is complete you are absolved completely, we shall not
discuss it again. That means after the punishment no more guilt and
no more begging and apologizing, it’s over and lets move on.
Please and Thank You: It’s nice to be nice; this is the way I was
brought up. When I ask you for something, I generally say, "please"
and "thank you". I do not use “please” as a question. I expect you
to do what I request whether I preface my request with please or not.
You must ALWAYS use please and thank you.
Smoking: You are not permitted to smoke around Me at all. That
means that if you come for the weekend you are not permitted to
smoke the entire time you are here, and if you smell like
smoke/cigarettes you will sent home.
Drinking: I drink socially. You are never permitted to drink any
alcoholic beverage without expressed permission and you are never
permitted to ask for any alcoholic beverage. If I ask for a drink and I’
m in the mood for you to have one also, I will tell you. I do not play
intensely if I have had more than one drink, and you don’t either. If I
have had two drinks and am in the mood for a light spanking or some
other “easy” play, I will ask you if you want a ______. This is one of
those rare instances that there are two correct answers, either “yes,
Mistress” or “I would prefer not to, Mistress”. Remember the answer
is never NO.
Food and Beverages- I have special dietary needs.
Coffee: I like My coffee first thing in the morning preferably before I
get out of bed. The coffee recipe is: fill pot to 12-cup mark and add
one full scoop of coffee. I use 1 packet of sweet-n-low in each cup.
The ideal coffee temperature is cool enough for big sips but hot
enough to steam. Serve My coffee to Me with the handle facing
toward My right as I am right-handed. I’m not going to fight with you
to get My hand on the coffee, so please keep your hand off the
handle.
Cold Drinks- I like cold drinks cold. I drink diet soda or bottled
water. I do not ever drink tap water. Do not contaminate my bottled
water by pouring it over ice made with tap water. If you’re not smart
enough to make sure there is ample bottled water in the refrigerator,
please refer to the section entitled “Punishment”. When I drink
soda, I like 5-7 ice cubes in my soda. Do not fill the glass up with ice
and give me a cup of foam. I prefer diet Dr. Pepper; however, if
none is available, I also like diet Sprite or diet Coke, but please ask
first. Never hand me an unopened bottle/can of water/soda. Empty
glasses or bottles are disappointing, be aware of how full my glass is
and don’t make me ask if I want a refill.
Food: I don’t eat food with added sugar, don’t put them on my plate
and tempt Me. I don’t like the foods on my plate to touch each
other. The meat should be at my 12 o’clock, the vegetable should
be at my 3 o’clock and the starch at my 6 o’clock. I prefer to eat
mostly vegetables and lean meats. I do not eat the following things:
fish or seafood, coconut, okra (or anything else green and slimy),
deep-fried foods, mushrooms, mayonnaise, cheap yellow mustard,
foods that are especially greasy and white bread (there are probably
many more I don’t like, but the list eludes Me just now). I limit my
intake of highly processed grains, potatoes, white rice and fruits with
a high glycemic index. I prefer red meats cooked to medium (not
shoe leather) and ranch dressing, (fat free if possible), for My salad.
Never reach across Me to serve me food or drink. You shall stand
behind Me and to my right when serving.
Chocolate: I love chocolate, but it just isn’t good for Me. I
appreciate an occasional gift of not more than two pieces of Godiva
(or any premium-quality) chocolate. My favorites are caramel,
hazelnut and truffles. (Please, no espresso or coffee types). Your
desire to please Me by locating a store that sells single pieces of
chocolate and bringing Me just two will impress Me.
Dining out: When dining out you may look at the menu as much as
you like, but I will be making your food selection. Unless you have
really angered Me I will generally ask you what you might be in the
mood for. You should answer with your top two or three choices, but
what you eat and drink are My decision (I hope you filled out the food
preference section thoroughly). I will inform you what We each are
having and you will speak to the wait person. Listen carefully, I really
hate repeating myself and it makes you look dumb in front of the
staff. I never pay for dinner. Banish the thought.
Slave positions: I love slave positions and use many of them
daily. You should know karta (for welcoming, leaving and begging),
nadu (mostly used for collaring or waiting), tower (mostly for
instruction), display (for inspection) and a position I call worship
which is much the same as karta except that you position yourself so
that your face is directly over My feet in such a manner for you to
worship them. Slave positions are not for swatting, scratching,
picking your nails etc. These are positions of control and honor.
You must not speak unless spoken to, I am the only person in your
life at this time and all your attention will be focused on Me.
I will not explain or demonstrate the slave positions so you can learn
them. Look them up on the internet, practice and know what you are
doing. Slave positions are to be executed with some degree of
grace. Groaning and complaining are not acceptable. Unless you
have stated some disability or medical condition in the questionnaire
that would preclude you from slave positions I expect you to execute
them properly, from the very first time.
Welcoming: When you arrive, or when I do, I expect to be greeted
by you in a karta position. You are to be nude except for a thong or
jock ( I really don’t want to see your cock, it’s the least of my
concerns). You should undress upon entering and fold your
clothing into a neat pile, then assume the karta position on the
sheepskin rug provided for that purpose. You should arrive clean
inside and out, freshly shaven and smell nice. You shall remain in
the karta position until instructed otherwise. Part of welcoming is to
place a collar on your neck that you shall wear until I remove it.
Gifts: I’m a woman first, so this means I like gifts. I expect small
tokens of affection (chocolates, flowers, potted plants, toe-nail
polish, massage oils, candles, etc) with some regularity. These
tokens need not be expensive; they show me that you think of Me
when we are apart and you have spent your time finding something
you think I will enjoy. I love to receive more extravagant gifts several
times a year. I usually have my eye on some sort of toy (whip,
paddle, something electrical, etc.) and you should ask for My wish list
before making a purchase.
Standing Requests: I like the following things: pedicures, foot
massage, back scratch, back and shoulder massage, lotion
application, general pampering. I expect you to do at least some of
these things EVERY time I see you, and I don’t expect to have to
ask. I consider these ways for you to honor Me and you should
endeavor to perform these tasks well. If you have displeased Me in
some way, you will not be permitted to honor Me in this fashion. We
will both be disappointed in you.
Household chores:
Bedroom:
I expect the bed to be made when I get up and clothing put away.
NEVER leave dirty clothes on the floor!
Kitchen:
The kitchen should be neat, counters clean, floor swept, dishes
done. It is not necessary to spend hours keeping the kitchen
spotless. If you see something dirty, clean it.
Living room and den:
Floor swept, dishes and miscellaneous stuff off the furniture
surfaces. I’m looking for a general sense of orderliness.
Bathroom:
If you leave the toilet seat up, please don’t be surprised when I make
you kneel in front of the toilet and slam your cock between the seat
and bowl repeatedly, then come up with a nifty way to make sure you
have to sit to pee.
Toys:
I use them, you clean them. Glass, silicone, rubber, etc type toys
can go in the dishwasher or you hand wash them. It is your choice.
Toys should be cleaned in a manner appropriate to the material.
Anything that has come in contact with bodily fluids must be cleaned
in a manner such as not to cross-contaminate anyone. Any toy that
doesn’t have a “cleanable” surface (such as wooden clothespins)
should be placed in a Ziploc bag marked CLEARLY with your name. I
play with other people in addition to you, your life and someone else’
s may depend on the cleanliness of the toys. Be thorough.
Communication: I like things black or white, gray areas are
frustrating and often too hard to figure out. When you communicate
with Me please be clear, concise and to the point. I don’t want to
hear big long stories (unless I ask or they are pertinent). Skirting the
question and not being clear about the answer is really annoying. If
communication with you is so difficult that I feel like I’m pulling teeth,
then it just really isn’t worth my time and I will make you go away.
Remember what you say and what I hear may be two different things.
Be clear!
Chastity: This is a subject close to my heart! I believe that you
have lived irresponsibly and that the penis attached to you has a
higher purpose (like My enjoyment and amusement). When you are
collared, I will insist you wear a chastity device 27/7. There will be
periodic cleanings, and possibly, occasional freedom. Until you are
collared, you are expected to remain chaste, but will not be required
to wear a device. Breaking the chastity agreement will be grounds
for dismissal. I consider the penis attached to you to be MINE and I
will be doing with it what i please, when i please, if I please.